It is usually when we sit in silence that the weight of the world becomes noticeable. That all our worries, anxieties and fears can be felt most acutely. It is the time when we are closest to ourselves because we allow ourselves to hear our thoughts and feel those feelings that are always there but that we usually quiet down. Life is an endless stream … Continue reading When we sit in silence
Every now and then I have an epiphany. It usually happens when I talk to myself, thinking out loud. That’s when I seem to have the best ideas. I’m currently in a situation where one of my friends has retreated. I’m not entirely sure why. We had a miscommunication. We were exchanging messages when I was feeling a little down. In fact, I was feeling … Continue reading Reaching for the wrong people
If you ever ask yourself what’s wrong with you, the answer is probably ‘a lot’. Though that’s not necessarily the best way to look at it. We shouldn’t think in terms of something being ‘wrong’ with us. Of course, the feeling that something is just not ‘right’ tempts us to think of the opposite as ‘wrong’. The truth is, we’re all complex and complicated. We’re … Continue reading Repeating patterns
If there’s one truth we can all agree on it is that there is only one person we each spend every day for the rest of our lives with: our very own selves. Our first commitment should therefore be to ourselves. And I am not promoting self-centredness, egotism or even narcissism. Any commitment should be a healthy one, this includes the one we must make … Continue reading Commit to yourself
We all know that hindsight is always 20/20. Our views mature with experience and, yes, suffering. We get to know ourselves better, revisit decision made in the past, consider mistakes we’ve made and how we have improved (hopefully). Oddly, I keep coming across YouTube videos or blogs where people talk about the 3, 5, 10 or 20 things they wish they’d known 3, 5, 10 … Continue reading Why I don’t wish I knew at 20 what I know now
Following up on yesterday’s post, which was really a repost from October 2019, I wanted to add a few things. I chose to repost this blog entry because it still felt perfectly timely. Yesterday in particular I felt this restlessness, haunted by too many thoughts and still going after the next distraction. But I also realised, it is no longer as bad as it had … Continue reading Practicing mindfulness
But sometimes not even that. I’ve been thinking a lot about friendship, what it means, what it requires, what a friend could or perhaps even should be. I have no definitive answer and I cannot impose my ideals of a friendship on someone else. How I might be as a friend to someone has no bearing on how they might be as a friend to … Continue reading All we have is each other
Yes, one could argue that I am. But only when it doesn’t matter. As in, I can just kick back, relax and do nothing. Or do irrelevant, distracting things. Like browse social media. Also, I am extremely good at procrastinating. Postponing tasks that need to be done in favour of less important things. Those also need to be done, it’s just not that urgent. The … Continue reading Am I lazy?